So 2019 was a rough year. We moved to Tricities that year and I worked a really crappy job only to get a new job and it be crappy as well. My ex drama just got worse all because I moved and my ex was pissed. The drama with my sister hit an all time high and actually ended up being the end of us talking for reasons we won't talk about (message me if you really want to know). Finances were a HUGE struggle because while I was working, I was barely making ends meet which lead me to being stupid with my credit card and end up getting scammed. The constant worrying about money has been at the top of the list of the last 2.5 years thanks to partly my ex, partly the crappy job, and the fact I was literally starting life over with debt. The constant drama from my ex was a companion almost because of how often it was happening, the things he was saying to me and to my kids, and constant throwing of his relationship with the woman he cheated on me with to my kids and myself. That was loads of fun. The drama with my sister has always been there. She kinda has an all about me attitude however, it did make us end our relationship. When she started telling me how to take care of my kids in regards to my ex and then started making inappropriate accusations about my then boyfriend (whom I am married to now), well that was just the icing on the cake. That ended our already strained sister relationship and caused HUGE amounts of drama that pretty much lasted into part of 2020. It was probably the MOST trying year ever and one I hoped to NEVER live again. I claimed 2020 to be our year. Our year to have no more drama. Our year to be credit card debt free. Our year to finally breathe. We did not expect what 2020 held for us at all!
2020 started off normal. No real big changes or anything. We were hearing things about some sickness in China but it was in China so I didn't pay close attention to it. Didn't effect us. Or so I thought. Then Feb we got our first case in Seattle and it spread like wildfire! We have had so many lock downs and mask mandates, so many people telling you how you should and should not live. Weddings were canceled, funerals were virtual, staying going no where was the new normal. Even my kids were pulled out of school and now doing online school which is not what we ever wanted for my kids. However, the craziness that covid cause did not stop the things we wanted to accomplish and actually helped. We were given stimulus money 'to help us through tough times of covid' (do not get me started on it) twice. Plus we got our taxes. Between all of that, we were able to completely pay off ALL of my credit card debt and I ended 2020 with only my school loan debt (plus 2 others-we'll talk about those in a bit). I got a raise which allowed us to be more on top of our bills and actually have money to spend although we tried not to spend too much. We were able to travel 3 times this year too. Jason and I took an us weekend in Vancouver after dropping the kids off at their dad's for spring break (right at the beginning of shut downs). Then in July, we took the kids to Silverwood for the firs time ever for our first family trip ever! And in August, we spend a week in CA at my mother in law's house meeting some of Jason's family which was fun. We also had some big changes in our family. In April, in the middle of a pandemic, Jason and I decided this was a great time to get married! And we did! We got the papers, called the courthouse and got the date, and then we did it. We celebrated with Jason's dad and step mom, my 3 kids, and my mom. We then held a reception for those who were comfortable celebrating with us in September. We then bought a van cause you know, a van with 3 kids (one who is annoyingly tall) and a dog, it's was basically the next step! and then In Nov we started the process to buy our house which closed on the last day of 2020. Fitting end to our 2020! And the drama from my ex? Wow, HUGE change we were not expecting. I was no longer blocked on text messages, I actually hear from both my ex and his gf (still the same person) and they are NICE to me! We actually have conversations now even when he drops off the kids! He talks to me AND to Jason! This is HUGE y'all. Huge! And my sister drama? Well, we are still no talking and no offense, probably never will. She really burned that bridge BUT she is no longer causing problems or talking bad about us and is no longer being mean to my niece and mom! So while the world was in uproar around us, we had a really great year. Everything I wanted, even though it didn't happen how I expected, happened. The drama is basically gone, my debt is gone and we are doing better financially (this year will be tougher cause, you know, we bought a house!) AND I have this amazing husband who is going to school full time, working part time, and makes sure my kids get to school/zoom on time and their home work gets done while I am at work. The only thing I really want for 2021 is a better job where I am actually appreciated at work and valued as an employee, my kids to be back in school in person, to go back to living life normally, and for us to finally move forward in other areas of our life. 2021 will hopefully be a year fully of good changes, no drama, and even better finances!
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