Well That Escalated....

 My last blog I mentioned not feeling good enough. Well, now I am learning how to move forward in spite of that being 'proved' to me. Recently I had a really close good group of friends. At least they were in my eyes. We hung out all the time, gave each other gifts for Christmas, and spent a lot of weekends hanging out or helping each other. We considered them our people and we loved them. We've never had any spats or real issues that needed addressing. We've been friends for almost 3 years and had many milestones happen in that 3 years. A wedding, 4 (3 couples and 1 person) houses bought, many fun parties and gatherings! There were 6 of us that were really close but the last year and a half we had another couple that joined and was becoming a part of our inner circle. And on Tuesday, February 23, 2021, that all ended with miscommunication that doesn't even make sense, wasn't true, and was never, ever brought to our attention. I cleared up the miscommunication sorta with one couple who is still facebook friends but our friendship has changed forever. We will no longer hang out in person ever again. The rest of them, things have ended completely and we have no clue why. We have no clue what happened. We have no clue if we did something wrong or we never had a chance to fix it. All we knew is that our friends stopped talking to us at the beginning of January. Misinformation was spread about us behind our backs. When asked what was going on, no one responded. When personal texts asking what was going on were also ignored, we knew something was up but no one would tell us a thing until the one person did who I cleared it up with. Even when hubby asked one of them personally what was going on, he was told to ask the group, which we did. We unfriended the 2 that cause all of this and hubby did unfriend and block all of them but I remained friends with the other 2 who eventually unfriended me after meeting with the entire group to discuss the issues of us. I'm sure they talked about other things as well but they most definitely talked about us. I sat down and wrote letters out explaining how it all looked from our side and how we are 100% clueless of what happened and why we were no longer friends but apparently none of them care enough to clue us in cause 2 weeks later and we haven't heard from any of them. Now, I do have other friends that I love dearly and we hang out with. But these people were the ones who we hung out with the most and were our family and now I feel a something is missing. I will eventually move forward. It's harder cause I do not have closure of what happened and if it could have been fixed and to be honest, I miss them all. Terribly. Yeah things weren't amazing and I always felt on the outside of the group but they were still my people and it hurts they are no longer there. I know, it sounds pathetic but it's the reality. I hate how things went down and even if we ever find out what happened, there is no coming back from this. For any of them. And that really hurts.